Maybe their parents should discuss this with them – think of the time they’d save by not having to attend meetings

Teenaged girls gather to protest “date violence”.  Who thinks of these things? Who organizes them? Kids looking to pad their college application resumes? Teachers in need of overtime? I told my daughters when they were young that if a boyfriend ever hit them they should leave and never, ever have anything further to do with him no matter how he apologized or promised to never do it again. It was, I said, a revelation of a permanently warped personality who could never be trusted.

Still good advice, I think. Don’t raise dishrags.

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17 responses to “Maybe their parents should discuss this with them – think of the time they’d save by not having to attend meetings

  1. While I don’t see ANY point in carrying signs and protesting at the Stamford Government center, there is validity in the cause but the focus should be within their own circle of friends. Keep communication open with parents and buddies when you think one girl has been hit. Or even verbally abused.

    Chris, girls often blame themselves when a man hits them. That they didn’t have sex or they weren’t pretty enough. Look at Rihanna, the pop star. She was hit badly by her boyfriend rapper Chris Brown. He apologized (sure) and she broke up with him (right) but they are now a couple again. You can be assured Brown will hit her again.

    My girls learned to shoot for a reason. But first and foremost, both have a fabulous sense of their own worth. That’s usually the difference between a girl who knows to walk away and the one who ends up dead and beomes an episode of Dateline.

    • Exactly, EOS – and it’s a sense of who they are and that they are valuable as themselves – none of the phony “self-esteem” so popular in modern education, where everyone is the best of everything, but a solid grounding, a knowledge of their dignity.

  2. Walt

    Dude –
    This is a very serious topic. But it’s Friday. So let’s lighten it up a bit, shall we?

    What do you say to a woman with 2 black eyes? Nothing, you already told her twice.

    If your wife keeps coming out of the kitchen to nag at you, what have you done wrong? Made her chain too long!!

    What’s the first thing a woman does when she comes home from the Battered Wives Clinic?The dishes if she knows what’s good for her!

    What’s the difference between a straight woman and a lesbian? About half a bottle of wine.

    How can you tell if your wife is dead? The sex is the same but the dishes pile up.

    Your Pal,
    Walt

  3. Anon

    There’s funny. There’s knee-slap funny. And then there’s Walt funny. I’m just not sure in this case if even Walt-funny makes it when your daughter has had her lights punched out by some drunken macho jerk.

    • Walt

      You cannot draw lines about what you can or can’t poke fun at. It is a dangerous slope, very similar to gun control. YES THAT”S RIGHT!!

      The MSM has basically called any late night talk show host poking fun at Obama a racist. Do you really think that is a good thing?

      Nothing can be sacrosanct. If you don’t like it, don’t read it or listen to it, or watch it. Don’t try to censor it.

      Can you make fun of rape? A horrible, horrible crime. Yes, I think you can.

      “I said the worst thing you can do to a woman is rape her and then call her fat.” You don’t see the humor in that? Really? It is not condoning rape and it is funny.

      It’s from the following article, so read this and learn something:
      http://feministing.com/2012/07/16/sarah-silverman-demonstrates-how-to-make-a-rape-joke/

      They are firing reporters, radio hosts, and others because they offended someone. That is absurd. Where EXACTLY does it say in the Constitution we have a God given right to not be offended? And if you can make fun of God, and no one seems to have a problem with that, tell me why, exactly, other things should be off limits?

      • Walt

        And then tell me who you think should decide what is and what is not OK to make fun of.

        • Anon

          You are 100% right Walt. It’s just hard to acknowledge that that’s the truth. It was like joking about September 11. It had to be done but it was hard for the first comic who did it.
          I do wonder if there’s anything off limits for you.

        • Walt

          Well wonder no more. I think anything is fair game to be ridiculed. And I think that’s important. People couldn’t make fun of Hitler or Stalin, so they drew a line somewhere, with pretty poor results I think.

          And that’s the problem with the Slum’s right? Well one of the problems anyway. THEY ARE KILLING PEOPLE OVER FRIGGING CARTOONS!! Because it offends them. Because someone drew a line. How frigging stupid is that?

          Teenage physical abuse isn’t even close to a taboo subject. And I don’t think there is such a thing as a taboo subject. Jokes on God, death, murder, suicide, Hiroshima, the Holocaust, incest, pedophilia, Siamese twins, midgets, Priests, Nuns and Rabbi’s, Homo’s, Lezbo’s, Titanic, 9-11, necrophilia, paranoia, depression, the Manson murders, and on and on have all been done. Some very funny, some not. But none should be taboo.

          Only insecure Nanny Staters, born with a stick shoved mightily up their frigid little ass, and an all knowing sense of righteousness, as well as a belief they have a God given right to force their values and beliefs on others, really believe that. JUST LIKE THE SLUMS DO!! Is that what we want?

          So I really can’t think of a topic or subject which I think should be above ridicule. And I really do think it is dangerous to do so. Seriously.

          DID SOMEONE SAY DEAD BABY??

          How do you know when a baby is a dead baby? The dog plays with it more.
          How do you make a dead baby float? Take your foot off of its head.

          How do you stop a baby from crawling around in circles? Nail its other hand to the floor. Not a dead baby joke, but pretty funny.

          Does this answer your question?

  4. Fred2

    ” I told my daughters when they were young that if a boyfriend ever hit them they should leave and never, ever have anything further to do with him”

    Amen.

    Hmm. I recall, back in college, that one of the female engineering students I studied with had bad date with a person who was less than gentlemanly. She was concerned that he might not have gotten the message that his attention was no longer welcome.

    I understand his behavior improved (though SHE didn’t date him anymore) after an impromptu 2AM visit by a number of her “engineering brothers” to his digs. He was politely informed that any further behavior of that sort to _anyone_ we heard of would be frowned upon, and he correctly intuited that “frowned upon” was semantically equal to “impromptu visit to local emergency room .”

    Not bad a for a posse of fairly nerdy middle class engineering white-boys.

    I’m pretty sure most fathers, brothers and general male friends will gladly provide a similar counseling session to the former date of most young ladies, if requested.

  5. LAK

    Wish I knew this a long time ago. Was in a very bad abusive relationship.
    But…very happy now.
    Happy Birthday to me! xxoo
    LOL

  6. Libertarian Advocate

    Walt has it pegged exactly right. No one, ABSOLUTELY NO ONE, is above ridicule, most especially those who govern us.

  7. Anonymous

    “Tricked her and used her for sex”… First off it’s not illegal to use someone for sex or anything else for that matter particularly if the person allows it. It might not be nice but it’s not illegal

    How about some accountability here. If you feel you are being used stand up and don’t allow it. If my daughter said something like this and blamed the man I would have a serious talk with her about her own accountability and responsibilities.

    It’ hurts the image of woman to continue to treat them like they are helpless victims without the ability to stand up for themselves…focus on the real issues – violence,rape,etc.